Can men and women be equals? Should men and women be equals? If so, what parameters will be used to measure this? Will we rely on statistics to tell us when equality is reached?
Does equality mean that it is necessary that we have equal numbers of men and women as CEOs in the Fortune 500, or equal numbers of men and women in Congress?
Should we make sure that there are equal numbers of men and women are in the military, in our judicial system, or as governmental employees? Should we guarantee equal paychecks across the board in all positions?
Do we dare mandate this kind of equality and control the markets to make sure we reach the lofty goal of equality between men and women?
What is the answer to this question? Everyone has their own point of view on this subject and it is a very emotionally charged issue.
In my book, “Master the Mystery of Human Nature: Resolving the Conflict of Opposing Values,” it is shown that men and women are equal in their worth to the overall scheme of life, but by their inherent temperament traits and their preferences, there is a difference in what creates satisfaction for each gender, all things considered.
By and large, the differences between men and women are easily recognizable. Men tend to be more thinking by nature and women tend to be more feeling by nature.
Men generally use logic and reasoning to make objective choices and decisions. Women generally use emotional values to make more subjective choices and decisions.
One is not better than the other, just different ends of the same stick, so to speak.
Being more thinking or feeling by nature creates strengths and weaknesses in certain aspects of life. Thinkers are more comfortable with problem solving and getting jobs done, and are task-oriented. Feelers are mostly concerned with people and what is happening to them. Relationships are their No. 1 priority.
Within the big picture this has huge implications for what jobs and professions each side prefers. Thinkers are more drawn to business, law, military, science, finance, trades positions, technology, and other positions that are not subjective by nature.
Feelers are more likely to be found in positions such as teaching, communications, nursing, humanities, social work, arts, music, fashion, beauty, and positions that depend on having emotional qualities necessary for success.
Of course not all men and women fit these stereotypes, as two-thirds of men have been shown to prefer thinking and two-thirds of women are feelers.
Conversely, one-third of women are thinkers and one-third of men are feelers. Just using these percentages as guidelines, one can see that in the overall picture men and women won't equally be drawn to certain jobs and professions, nor should they be expected to.
Having this knowledge about men and women might help us to see that there are specific differences built into our natures that are there for a reason. Expecting men and women to be equal in all areas of life is unrealistic and unproductive.
Men and women need each other in so many ways. We are dependent upon each other for certain strengths that are characteristic for each side. We can be each other's teachers to help us in areas that we are not so naturally inclined to be strong in.
Let us glory in our differences and join together in a union that is creative and fulfilling.
Are men and women equal? In an ideal world of harmony and balance: Yes!
What we need is the understanding of how the world really works in order to find our personal bliss so the balance can be natural and good for everyone.
How can we become equals? Only by recognizing and appreciating our differences.